“It was very scary for both of us,.
Part of me was saying, Thank God we know what it is, and now we will try to deal with it and do everything new that we are supposed to do.
But the rest of me was terrified that I could lose my husband.
Odd but there are nights I barely slept when he first came home from hospital
Id kept turning over to make sure Tom was breathing, or I’d lay awake, stressing about what our future holds.
So I would go sleep on the sofa about 3-4am
It would have been nice if I had someone to talk with about how I was feeling during that time, doctors don’t seem to care to much about the spouses stress or health issues.
Or the fact that I am trying to find ways to pay for all these co pays when I’m on disability and my husband is recovering from 3 stents and a heart attack December 3 .
Thank God my husband is feeling pretty good he’s going to cardiac rehab
He will be trying to go back to work in the next few weeks part time light duty
That also scares me.
Will he be ok at work?
Many spouses of heart disease patients feel the same way.
A new study published in the journal Heart & Lung found that 66% of wives of men undergoing cardiac rehabilitation reported that they felt distressed and tense, and had trouble falling asleep, after their husbands were diagnosed with heart disease.
Distress was particularly common among the younger wives studied those in their early 50s than among the older wives, the study found.
To arrive at their findings, the researchers gave more than 200 wives of heart patients standardized tests to measure such things as their distress levels, heart disease-related stressors, and coping strategies.
The results showed that the wives had worries about treatment, recovery, and prognosis; about their husbands’ moodiness; and about when and if their husbands could return to work and sex.
“The most important message is that heart disease affects not only the patient, but the family members as a unit,” researcher Patricia O’Farrell, RN, BScN, who conducted the study, tells WebMD. O’Farrell is clinical manager for the Heart Institute Prevention and Rehabilitation Centre at the University of Ottawa.
“Distress is a normal reaction to a serious event like a heart attack,” she says. “Ideally, there needs to be help for family members and spouses so they can adjust to heart disease.”
The spouses of patients undergoing cardiac rehabilitation, especially younger women, should be screened for distress, O’Farrell and her colleagues conclude in their article.
“Those in distress should be offered interventions focused on assisting them to deal with specific stressors related to their experience,” they write.
Stress management techniques, and general counseling aimed at teaching coping skills such as problem solving, may help spouses, they write.
As it is, family members of heart patients receive little counseling or help in coping from doctors or other health care professionals. A previous study found that how well a patient copes physically and mentally with heart disease depends on his or her spouse’s ability to cope with the situation.
What’s more, research has shown that heart patients with strong support from family members do better than those without such support, the authors of the new study point out.
* A new study finds that wives of heart disease patients experience distress, especially younger wives in their early 50s.
* Learning stress managementtechniques and coping skills may help such spouses.
* Earlier research has shown that patients with spouses who cope well with the disease do better physically and emotionally.
So I’m being strong for my husband.
Not showing my fear or worry.
I allow myself to cry or get out my frustrations when he’s not home.
His heart attack & surgery was just this past December 2016
So it’s all pretty new
My dad had heart disease at age 39
God what my mother must have felt at 37
I’m 54 and my emotions are all over. Tom’s are to. I was told that’s normal.
I worry about my own health
I have so much going on already
#Factor V Leiden
A newly diagnosed Hernia just last month. Don’t know how I got that. And I haven’t gone back to surgeon yet to see how bad it is. Right now Tom comes first.
I mean what the hell!!
I have to pray it’s what keeps me sane
My song of the Day.