Make sure you are doing what is important to God—not just what is important to everyone else you know.
We gave a tendency to worry more about what other people think vs what God thinks
From an early age we work to get the approval from others,whether it was proving to our parents that we could ride a bike without training wheels, or struggling to get that C to an A.
Through the years it can become a problem for us as it can cripple us emotionally and spiritually.
We need to get to the point where we don’t care what the media says, how colleagues feel about us, or live in state of constant fear or agony of what others think.
The other person is not going to worry about it, or stay awake at night upset that you’re offended. You can’t be responsible for other people’s words, actions, or decisions as hurtful as they can be.
We all want to be congratulated for a job well-done from even acquaintances, but what happens when they don’t, or you are not acknowledged in some way.
Some think it’s painful not to always be told great job ….. for me personally I learned a long time ago you can’t please everyone and more often it’s our family and friends that seem to be the most critical.
They always feel the need to judge you in some way.
But learn to regroup, refocus, and rise above petty people, sin, and caring what others think of you.
They don’t really know your story, but Christ does.
So, where do we begin and do we need to take ownership?
Look if you are working hard doing or trying to do the right thing , being a good citizen, being kind, respectful to all people. And taking good care of yourself . Be proud of yourself and always strive to do better. But realize you will never please everyone.
Maybe just don’t worry so much about those critical people in your life and certainly lose those who are bad for you. You know those few co workers or friends that egg you on to do shit that you know is wrong or unproductive or unprofessional.
It’s really better to mind your own business and focus on work or school verses having to be someone your not.
In Philippians 4:6-7, we are told to relax, and go to God for relief and strength. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Our minds can dictate our feelings and vice-versa, so every time we are worried about what others think switch to a scripture, prayer or praise.
You can say “I trust the God not my feelings.”
Add your name to a scripture. It can really personalize it and help you grow closer to the Lord.
1 Peter 5:7: “Cast all your [insert your name] anxieties on Him, because He cares for you [insert your name].”
Worrying about what others think is human, but when it’s to a point where our joy is being choked, then we need to become proactive, not reactive.
Take people out of your courtroom of justice, and offer them to God, and also humble yourself. It’s simply not worth it for your health, or hindering your walk